In-Between Traveler

When you only have 6 weeks before you whisk off to another work assignment. Well, it’s that time again to get packing and off to a beautiful island for work. I love my job and the many great opportunities that come my way. I work with a great bunch of people from many different locations. I wanted to send this out before I take off again to the Philippines for another 2 months. I find it difficult to focus on my home life and things that need to be done around the house or in my “permanent home”. When I know that in just under 35 hours I will be taking off to a faraway place. I have only been home for 6 weeks, since my last “tour” of work duty.

Not sure how many of you out there handle this or even if you have a routine down; if you travel a lot for your job. I don’t travel constantly for work. However, it feels that way lately with back to back travel assignments. Don’t get me wrong as I love what I do and meeting new people. As well as the great experiences you have, it just leaves an everlasting mark on you. Even though I have been there before this trip. I can’t help but feel excited as if it was my first time. I contribute this to my love for flying. Some would think I was crazy, but I do love it! I do not mind the lines, customs, or even standing at the check-in counter. Just to be told your flight was canceled or delayed. I just look at it as an opportunity to exercise my ability to be flexible. As well as accept what happens and move on, since not everything can be controlled.

Have any of you that traveled a lot, ever think that. I can pack less since I have been down this road before. Just to realize that you cannot pack less? I literally pack and in my mind, I feel that I packed less, but in reality, I have not. I may pack fewer pants, shoes or other non-essential items. To find out that I packed more of another item, due to the extra room. It’s like in my mind I see it as a challenge to pack in full. When I was packing I had a clear agenda of what I wanted to pack and less of it of course. Why do I feel like I actually packed the same amount? I realize that I pack for the “what if” moments; instead of what is actually going to happen day-to-day. I will be taking more stuff out of my luggage before I depart on Thursday morning. I keep telling myself, “leave room for souvenir’s”.

There are lots of blogs and websites on how to pack light. I find most of them don’t address the extended work travels. I wish I could get away with shorts and t-shirts all the time. Who am I kidding, I would still pack a dress and heels. Well, not sure what value this will have. But if you have any tips or recommendations. I would love to hear them.

I will see you at the boarding ramp. 🙂

Intermittent Fasting Vegan

This is one thing that I have been intrigued by; over the last year now. I have spent countless hours Googling and searching for different types of fasting methods. This is my second intermittent fasting. I started on Monday 1/20 with a 16/8 fasting. I hear that you can switch it up to fit your day-to-day routine. However, this concept is hard for me to grasp. I say this as, like most humans, we are creatures of habit. I like to stick with one set time frame. It makes it easier for me to know when I need to start/finish eating. This is best for me with the schedule/life in general.

So far so good-contributing this with planning and food preparation. I am finding it easier this time vs the first time that I did intermittent fasting in 2019. This time I don’t crave water as much as I did the first time during the fasting. I’m finding I am more conscious of this and mindfully drinking water to stay hydrated. My food choices are more thought out and think about the energy/protein that these choices will provide my body. Will this keep me fuller longer? Will this choice provide sufficient energy? When it comes to intermittent fasting.

Now back to the fasting. By day 4 of my fasting, I was not drinking as much water as I should have been. I was eating pretty well and manage to have very little “hunger” moments, during the fasting period. I know that the first time I fasted, I was craving water like crazy-this time not so much and not sure why that is. I probably should look into that. Research if others have and that after their first time. Honesty, the fast went quicker than I thought. However, I didn’t focus on the limits of fasting. Overall, during fasting, I felt great. I continued to work out in the mornings and went about my day as always. I think too many people focus on the “not eating” part. In one way or another we all fast. It’s just not as long of a window as most intermittent fasting go.

You really start to think about the choices you are making with your food. Versus, just eating what you want since you know that you can’t snack or eat whenever. This has aided me in my food shopping and even when I do go out to eat. It allows me to think about the ingredients. How healthy is the choice I’m about to make? Do I want to buy it, or just make it myself at home. As humans, we tend to just eat what is placed in front of us. Without even putting any thought into the food or the ingredients. Why do we typically wait until our health is failing us-diagnosed with something that causes us to start taking notice?

I follow Veganliftz and, this is the information that I keep hearing about the benefits of intermittent fasting. This has also been seen on various other sites, during my research before starting this fast.

The Benefits of Intermittent Fasting

  • Healthy weight management. 
  • Boost your energy. 
  • Promote mental clarity and focus. 
  • Support cognitive function. 
  • Help maintain healthy blood sugar levels. 
  • Support healthy cholesterol and blood pressure.  
  • Support the body’s anti-inflammatory response.  
  • Boost metabolic rate.

My only recommendation or advice if you will. Is to do the research-make sure you know the resources that you’re looking at. Everyone has their pros and cons to intermittent fasting. Make sure that your taking in the facts and not the hype or “fake news” about it. Just my two cents on getting started.

The Attraction To Younger Men

Love is fluid like water, so why not make a ripple and see what happens. This is one topic that I see online and hear a lot about when it comes to younger men and older women. I know that most of you reading this blog are thinking that this would make the older woman (me) a cougar. This is not so and Let me tell you why. The definition of a cougar is when an older woman seeks out a younger man for a sexual relationship. This is not what I am talking about at all. I am talking about a deep connection for a healthy, meaningful relationship regardless of age differences.

I know that there will be some eyebrow-raising, shaking of heads, and cynics out there. But let me tell you that I am talking about two adults that are of legal age and consenting adults. I can tell you that I for one do not seek out younger men; quite the opposite. When I am in social settings, it seems that when it comes to “age-appropriate” men. All they are interested in is a meaningless roll in the hay, inadequate in the social skills it takes to carry on a decent conversation, or even treat me like a lady. Not like one of their “beer drinking” buddies. This has been my experience over the past couple of years.

“I am ME, not a version of any one’s ideas or property to mold. I am perfect just the way I am.”

Now I will tell you that there have been a few nice guys that were in my age range. We just never had a connection or more than coffee, as there was just nothing there. Some that were either bad timing or even not a good match. These, however, are the few and very rare encounters sad to say. The big differences between men of my age versus younger men. Is that the younger men are quite honest, and upfront with their intent. Most of all treat you with respect and are not interested in playing games. I have been told by younger men, that they prefer older women for that very reason. That the younger woman that they have interacted with is inexperienced, immature, and most of all shallow in their thinking. Now, these are not my words, as this is what I was told. I know that like every situation or experience. This does not account for all younger women or even men. This is just merely the experiences that I have had over the past few years.

For myself, I am attracted to younger men because of their energy. I find that they enjoy being active tend not to want to sit around and watch tv or get lazy. Not that I am always running around; however I do like to stay busy. Also, younger men do not come with the “ex” baggage like men do my age; or tend to have that “crazy” ex situation going on. I enjoying doing things like hiking, exercising, yoga, meditation, traveling. Many other things that keep me young at heart. I have never been one that fits within a standard mold of any kind. I am ME, not a version of any one’s ideas or property to mold. I am perfect just the way I am. I am complicated, ever-changing, emotional, caring, kind, loving, and most of all a deeply spiritual being. Now when it comes to men of my age. They are already either set in their ways; like old dogs on a porch waiting to die or even not interested in any long term relationship. As most are just content with being single and free with an occasional fling. I understand that this is just my take on it and based on my experiences as well. I know that there are a few good men left in this world of my age. It all comes down to timing and connections in this life journey.

The point of this blog is to express that age is just a number and one that I have slowly started to adopt the idea of not confining myself to a certain age range or ideas about dating. Don’t get me wrong, as I too often think about all the “what if” questions that come up when dating someone younger than you. However, they quickly vanish as there are just as many “what ifs” when you are dating any man or woman of any age. Not just the younger ones. Life is so short, and why restrict yourself to what you feel should be the framework of a relationship or even rules. Outside of making sure that their intentions, mindset, even the quality of that person as someone that would be a value to your life. What are we as humans so hung up on age, race, or even their past experiences? I personally feel that these are all ideas that have been passed down for centuries; that do not hold cause anymore based on today’s society.

Sometimes as humans we get wrapped up in what others think of us. That we don’t live the best version of ourselves. We give in to doing what we think is right, the “norm” if you will. So not to upset the apple cart of society or even our family unit. We all just need to stop worrying about what others think about us; do what is best for us and our lives. I like to think if they aren’t talking about you; Then you’re doing something wrong. Yes, it may be easier to stick with what is safe. What is the fun in that? Life was meant to be lived, experienced, and enjoyed. If you’re not living your best version; then you are wasting your life.

Stop living for others and BE-YOU-TIFUL!

What I Learned from 2019

As I sit here thinking about 2019 and wondering what I did that added value to my life. Have I wasted it all away? Did I truly make a difference in other’s lives? Was there something that I did. To positively impacted someone else’s life. I cannot help but wonder if I did enough; or did I fail in some way. These are some of the many questions that come across my mind as I say goodbye to 2019 and move into 2020.

These are just a few things that stick out that I feel are great things that I did. However, I hope and would like to think. That there are many other little moments that I did; in an act of kindness to others. That made a positive impact on them, in some way. I truly believe that these little moments are the greatest ones. These are the moments that you are not recognized, acknowledged, nor even praised for doing them. I don’t need the recognition, as it is within these little moments. That it is all about the act of doing good, and allowing the universe to take over. What you put out into the universe is what you will get back.

When I look back at last year and how I have changed my way of thinking. Focusing on positive thoughts; even when it was most difficult. I can’t help but think of my Grandmother Faye. When I think about being a more conscious positive thinker. She played a role in my young life; as a child. I even sit here now, with tears running down my face. Just with the memories of her, and wishing she was still around. I remember her as a strong, positive, creative, beautiful, and spiritually sound person. She never had a bad thing to say about anyone; always encouraged me to be me.

I discovered most of all that I am capable of so much more. I truly do not feel that I gave 100% last year. If I am going to be truly honest; and I have to be. As hard as this is to admit, I know that I could have given so much more. I should have made a better attempt at understanding, and getting to know others better. Instead of prejudging or pushing them away; based on my own perception of them. Based on their actions or words. I still have much more that I can do to making wiser financial choices in 2020. It is all about choices; just learning to be happy with what you have. Putting myself out there more, as I have dropped the ball on this one. These are a few highlights of things that I still need to work on.

I have done pretty well with putting positive thoughts into the world. But, I kept myself hidden away at home. Not really doing anything to meet up with friends; or even make new friends outside of work situations. This is difficult for me to do, have to do better this year with this part of my life. I realize that I am still guarded when it comes to my heart. I am not allowing others a chance; as I don’t want to be hurt or used anymore. I need to move forward, or this part of my life will never change. This is the hardest thing for me to do when it comes to my heart.

I am fully aware of what I need to do moving into 2020, and won’t be easy. If it were easy then there would be no reward. In the effort that we put into making changes for ourselves.

Mindset Of A Traveler

As I walk into my home for the first time in over two months. It is almost like walking into a stranger’s home. When you are away for any length of time-regardless the reason. There is always something unsettling. An adjustment to getting back to your “normal” routine. I know that this is to be expected when you travel across time zones, layovers, and even with the flight itself. I have looked up ways to combat post-travel and getting back into the swing of things once you are back home.

“Have you ever had a vivid/real-like dream, that you woke up from? During that haze of waking up and feeling as if that dream was real.”

A lot of what these sites tell you is pretty much common sense and what most of us do anyway. Like drinking lots of water, take a day to unwind. None of these sites explain nor acknowledge the fact that you are having these wonderful experiences, or even experiencing different cultures. In some cases, a sensory overload when it’s an extended trip. This within itself is not only emotionally draining. It is a culture shock to your system when you return to your home.

I experienced this when I was traveling to India for work; as well as to the Philippines. I have thought about this a lot and this is my theory; well how it is for myself. When I travel to these beautiful places. I put a lot of energy, thought, and much of myself into my work while there. I settle into my new role while in these different places. I find it easy to get into a day-day routine/ much like the locals. I do my best to embrace their culture, experience what I can while there. My point that I am trying to make, is when I return home. It is like being ripped out of what has become my life and back into reality. Meaning I am back home to making another change to fit my home life and culture. I think of it like this. Have you ever had a vivid/real-like dream, that you woke up from? During that haze of waking up and feeling as if that dream was real. As you wake up, your frantically trying to make sense of that dream; as you are becoming aware of your surroundings. Out of that groggy sleep you just emerged from. That is what it is like for you.

“I do my best not to waste one minute, as life is too short to have regrets, or even have those “I wish I had…” moments.”

Don’t get me wrong; I do not regret any of these opportunities that I have been given. Quite opposite, as it is a chance to encounter something new and exciting. Even if it is a work trip, there is always something new to learn or experience. I never say no to opportunities. We just never know what will happen or the outcome of those opportunities. I take that with great pride, respect, and so blessed that they are available to me. I do my best not to waste one minute, as life is too short to have regrets, or even have those “I wish I had…” moments.

A few things I personally try to do pre and post traveling anywhere:

  1. Write a packing list of items needed for the trip.
  2. Have all required documents during the trip (2 copies are great just in case you lose one of them)
  3. Get plenty of rest before heading off to the airport.
  4. Travel with lots of patience, kindness, and respect for others.
  5. Always be grateful to the airline staff, hotel staff, and your drivers.
  6. Being in the moment over trying to capturing it. 
  7. Try to stick with your personal “health” routine while traveling when possible.
  8. Don’t over eat-this one is hard as we always want to sample everything new that comes our way.
  9. Understanding different cultures and respecting them as you make the adjustment. This is a big one as we are a visitor-so we need to make the adjustment, not them.
  10. Taking time for yourself once you return home-taking that day or two will make a difference.

I know that this is pretty basic, and there are so many other things that I do for pre and post traveling. I can tell you that when you get older, you don’t bounce back like you use to. I am good with that as I know my body and do my best to listen to what it tells me. I am young at heart and have no problem embracing life to the fullest.

Here’s to all of those single mature women out there- never look back and happy travels.

50+ Single During The Holidays

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I will be the first to acknowledge that I am more than ok with being single. Actually, for the most part, it is amazing. I don’t have to check in with someone else, about my everyday activities. With that said; someday I believe that this will change. I simply have to be open to it when it does. No matter what my state of mind is when it comes to holidays. There is always this sense of emptiness or being incomplete. There is this underlining emotion that keeps letting me know that it is just me in the world. I am not talking about depression, just the fact that holiday’s will do this to most single people.

I think this is hitting me more so here in the Philippines. Here it is even more prevalent than they thrive in a family unit, with close ties to each other. I find even as I work in the local office here, there is an overwhelming sense of family. As I walk around about my day, it is hard not to notice the strong bond between coworkers here in the Philippines. I found out that most of the Philippines will spend their weekends during the month of December; going back to their homes. To spend them with their immediate families. Some travel a great distance in doing so, without any complaints as to the travel. I always learn something when I travel for work. This trip is no exception.

Of course, there is the part about the end of the year and taking “personal inventory” of yourself. I could not talk about the holidays, without talking about how we lived during the year. What did we accomplish, start or stop, did we make the most of the year; or even what we want to change about ourselves going into the new year. For me, this has been the most of what I have been feeling or that has been weighing on my mind lately. Yes, I have made a lot of changes in my life this year. I started this blog, started doing yoga, and started to incorporate a workout routine in my daily life. Nonetheless, I have also made some poor choices, wrong decisions. With that said, I feel that this year has been a surprisingly good year for me. I will say that looking back year-to-date. I will be making more changes for the better.

We all have unknows going into the new year. There are no guarantees in life. It is all in how you choose to meet them. With 9 days left in 2019. What changes do you plan to make for 2020?

Faces Of Unfulfilled Dreams

I know that this is not an area that I typically write about or discuss. However, with my many allies, friends within the LGBTQ+ community. I find myself sitting here, thinking about TDOR 2019. What does that look like from the Philippines vs the United States? How other countries view transgender women? Is there more harmony between the LGBTQ+ community and the “status quo”?

My employer has a strong inclusive policy for all people. I am currently in the Philippines and within my office alone. We have several transgender folds that are open, loved, and welcomed within their community. This got me to think about my home in Nebraska, United States. This is what I found out, and honestly, it was a shock. Please note that I am only basing this off of what I was able to locate on the Internet; and part of what I have experienced/witnessed in person.

Last year alone in the United States; there were 26 transgender women murdered. This is quickly becoming an epidemic in the United States. So far this year, we are at 22 murders and the year is not even over with. Let this soak in for a minute, as these are real numbers. Imagine every month, 2 people murdered just for being who they are. This is very interesting if you think about it. Why does a country that boasts about being so advanced in technology, military, quality of living, financial wealth? Show so much hate or disregard to anyone that is different than the status quo?

When I started to look into the Philippines as to how they treat the LGBTQ+ community; especially transgender women. I was totally and utterly shocked by the difference. I actually thought that the murder rate would be much higher. In fact, it is not. The only transgender murders I could find between 2015 and 2019 were 2 women. Yes, you heard me. Just 2 transgender women were murdered. One was murdered by a US Marine in 2015 and is serving prison time. This is unheard of in the U.S. for murdering a transgender woman. The most recent one was this year; on September 17th. She was out with her coworkers and sister. When she went out to get cigarettes; and never returned. The article I read, stated that this is so unheard of, that it sent shock waves through the LGBTQ+ community.

As I sit here upon the eve of the 2019 TDOR. I can’t stop but think why the United States murder rate is significantly higher than in the Philippines? Don’t get me wrong, as I love the Philippines and their culture. They are lovely people and will miss my time spent here. However, if the U.S. is so superior to a country. Why is it that we are so self-destructive, full of hate, and want to destroy what we do not understand? We, Americans can learn a lot from the Philippine culture and how they treat each other. No matter who they are.

I leave you with this. Just love, accept and embrace each other for who they are. We all are unique and have much to offer. But these 22 Americans and 1 Philippine woman will never fulfill their dreams-because of hate.